Ramblings of a Single Lady

Thursday, 26 July 2012

  • Its been a LONG time...still single

    I told myself I wouldn't come back on here until I could say that I had been a bride, but alas! One full presidential term later and I am still single. I am not bitter by any means, just a little confused. I guess I should do my best to update you within the last four years. I think the last you heard from me, I was in school studying to be a graphic designer which I believe was in 09 so I guess we'll start from there.

    2009

    An old roommate from college got hitched, but I chose not to attend as I was short on the cash flow.
    Got a job as a nanny working for an ex-Chinese model, who turned out to be crazy.
    Got a scholarship for school yay!

    2010

    Both my friends Cheri and Jaz who got married in 08, got preggers, both with boys
    School is continuing.

    2011

    More engagements (most of them from kids I used to babysit)
    Told my best friend of four years that I liked him. We had a falling out, but reconciled six months later.
    A guy began showing me interest. Unfortunately, friends around us kept pushing him to make a decision, so he backed out, and now we barely hang out.

    2012

    Engagements gallore--more friends join the "Heputaringonit" Club.
    Weddings
    My sister and I started a photography and graphic design business
    School is finally coming to a close and I am looking for an internship.
    High school reunion (10)

    So, I know it looks like nothing has really been happening, but I have been consumed with work and school. The idea of going on dates scared me as I have no experience at it at the ripe age of 28, but this year I promised that I would try to step out more and be a bit more adventures. I don't think that's the entire issue as to why I am single though. I think part of it is due to the fact that I am absolutely oblivious to guys' advances until its far too late. Decent guys paying me attention in a subtle way is unheard of and most of the time I miss the opportunity to respond to their pursuit and wind up in the dreaded "Friend Zone" forever. I think the other part is that I don't put myself out there enough because I am not an attention hog. In fact I shy away from it so insecurely that I am sure that's a HUGE turn off. Anyway, twenty twelve will be different, well what's left of it anyway, and I hope to have more to share and no longer a single lady in waiting.

    Much love.

     

Wednesday, 21 October 2009

  • Thinking of Switching

    I know I hardly get anyone to look at my page and I'm hardly on xanga as it is with all the other technologies out there yanking me in their direction. Anyway, I'm needing a blog else where that has a few more options as far as styling. I'm also trying to do a little more research as far as what to put onto my blog so hence why I haven't posted anything of substance. Then again this isn't really anyone's interest because as its stands I've only gotten about twenty views in all of my entries combined since I started this thing last year. Pretty sad. So, starting next year, I will have either vamped up this one or committed adultery on Xanga and floated to something more appealing. Any followers I have will be informed as to where to find me. If you're a photographer or weding cordinator or anything wedding related, shoot me some of your stuff so I can feature you in the future. Thanks.

Monday, 10 August 2009

  • Big Fat Greek Wedding

    These pics were long overdue. After a hike that morning with some friends through Ft. Pickens, my sister and I went to my friend, Lydia's wedding. She wore her mother's wedding dress, which suited her personality. The reception was held in the backyard of her parents' home which overlooked the water. Her mum was my math teacher in high school and often times we would go and visit her, so it was nice to go back and visit with them.


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    The ring bearer tried desperately to escape from a kiss from the little girl in the pic, but he ended his quest in tears because he was no match for her stamina!

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    Enter the husband and wife.

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Saturday, 11 July 2009

Tuesday, 02 June 2009

  • I've been busy

    Sorry I've been away from my desk for too long, I've been extremely busy with school, trying to find a job, and volunteering with my church's youth group. I have also been working on some graphic art that I'm hoping to sell soon. Here's a sneak peek at many more to come:

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    Weddings?

    I've had 3 friends get married within the last month, but I was unable to attend them, on account of the weather was so bad down here for like two weeks straight! I'm talking flooding, T-storms, and Tornado warnings galore! Ah well they were very gorgeous weddings anyway. I am going home this weekend to see a high school friend of mine get married. She's the youngest of 5 girls. 5 Greek girls, 2 of which are already married. Yes I will witness a very big fat Greek wedding. I'll be sure to take pictures.

    Much Love.

Thursday, 19 March 2009

  • Congrats! You Put a Ring on it! Now what?

    1. Tell your parents or whomever you consider closest to your heart the great news! It would be nice if you all were in one room when you made the announcement, but I'm sure the parentals are going to be happy either way if it is somone you approve of. Then you'll want to tell your closest friends--most likely the one's you actually want to be in the wedding.

    2. Get a journal! Guys this would be an awesome gift to the bride if you even documented your feelings leading up to the question and afterwards as well. You don't have to write a novel, but just note the time and emotions that were occuring.

    3. Pick a date and Announce it to the world! STDs are popular and no I don't mean sexually transmitted diseases for those of you snickering. Save the dates done as postcards are probably the cheapest mailing way. Newspaper is another way, email, Facebook, creating a website. The possibilities are endless. If you do decide to announce your engagement through STDs its a smart idea to actually pick a date.

    4. Set the mood. Formal, casual, in between? Will it be on a beach, in the sky, or on a train? This helps knowing this info because then you're able to make decisions on other things like attire, decorations, food, and music, not to mention invites.

    5. Its all about the money! What can you afford to produce? Make sure you and your soon-to-be sit down and discuss what you can shell out. Are the parents pitching in or not?

    6. The Bridal Posse. If you haven't already picked them out, its time to get your bridesmaids and groomsmen together. 2-12 is good although in my personal opinion and experience anything more than 6 gets crowded.

    7. Venues. Start looking now and settle on where you're getting married and where the reception will be and book it! Also look for caterers and places to buy the attire and invitations.

    I'm going to go into further detail about some of these later but for now just get at least the first six done.

Friday, 06 March 2009

  • Bennett Wedding

    Ok so after all the drama with shoes, surprises, and sleeping arrangements here's what happened:

    Feb 20th- Cat flies in and she, my sister, and I trek four hours to our college stomping grounds in time for some speed shopping for my sister's outfit and CFA. We then dropped my sister off in a park somewhere (my parents picked her up to wisk her off to their hotel) while Cat and I headed to the Amelia and got some downtime before rehearsal. Rehearsal was a nightmare. Leah's mum was running around pretending she was in charge, Leah was playing the wedding planner while the planner was on the phone and what should have taken thirty minutes took an hour and a half because of 50+ wedding party. (Side note and tip to bride-to-be's: keep it simple. Your parents, his parents, groomsmen, bridesmaids, flower girl and grandparents. Every uncle, cousin, and childhood friend or sweetheart does not need to be in it. Believe me it is CHAOS!!!) Afterwards, there was pizza and after that, sleep.

    Feb 21st- I forgot to pack stockings and so I am up before eight to run to Wally World to grab a pair. Cat and I get ready with hair and makeup and decide to change at the church DSCN2783. We are 8 minutes late, DSCN2860 but find that no one is ready for pictures. Speaking of pictures, the photographer just kept clicking. I'm not even sure if my mouth is closed and eyes opened for most of the shots because it prolly thirty degrees outside at that moment. DSCN2865 We get to the field 30 minutes after the wedding is to start (if you're having an early wedding, I think it is best to do most of the shots the day before.) First the family, then the "brothers" then the groomsmen DSCN2875, DSCN2882 the bridesmaidsDSCN2887 , the twelve softball flowergirlsDSCN2890 , and then the brides. The ceremony was a long one, with a bouquet assemblage, two pastors, and a prayer read in Punjabi I think. It was an hour long with wind gusts smacking everyone in the face and a high of only 40 degrees. DSCN2923 We all grinned and smiled and then waited around for 45 minutes to take pictures as everyone kept cutting in to take pictures with the bride. The bridesmaids were bitterly cold and bitterly last.

    The reception food was the highlight. Leah's dad is an amazing cook and made all of the food! Not enough tables for people to sit down. Apparently the church was having another function at four so could not "spare a square" extra. There was a dance floor, but no dancing was done. No dance music was played, or rather our dj didn't know how to dj. So the floor was a tease. DSCN2938 It somehow felt rushed and before we knew it, Leah and Riley were poking their heads out of her VUE for one last shot DSCN2939 .

    Cat and I went back to Amelia and enjoyed the childhood charms a moonbounce can have on a person at a stranger's birthday bash. I learned a lot from this wedding and hopefully in future posts I will be sharing this with you.

Monday, 02 March 2009

  • I've been in outer space

    Sorry folks (as if there is anyone reading this, ha! Man do I kid myself every time I write "folks") I have been nonexistent for a bit, because well I've been getting ready for Leah's wedding which has gone and passed. It was ridiculously cold outside that day and all or most of the bridesmaids had on sleeveless dresses which is what she wanted us to have. I think I ended up getting sick because of it. Carolyn and I stayed at a friends house during the draining event and stumble upon a house party they were having but were not involved with. Cat and I played on the moonbounce and almost made it topple over! That was fun! I'll have pictures up later, but I must warn you that most of the pics I have are with my eyes closed. Reception food was amazing. Leah's dad is a chef so he did everything. The rest of the reception was extremely awkward though and I was glad to leave and get some rest after standing outside for an hour waiting to take pictures with the bride. I think a little bit of the old Leah came back. She had been out of the limelight for so long that I think she missed it last week. Anyhoo--pictures later, then I will continue on from the proposal to planning. Hope everyone is doing well.

Saturday, 24 January 2009

  • Will You Marry Me?: 10 Proposal Ideas to Scratch off Your List

    Okay, so you've went out and bought the ring for the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with. Now what? Well the creative process isn't over yet. You still have to come up with a meaningful way to present to her this expression of commitment. Here are 10 proposals that are overused, overcooked, and overDONE. Seriously, when a girl is telling of how she got proposed to she doesn't want her story to be so generic that one of her friends says "Hey that's how I got proposed to!" You'll look like the dunce who looked off another dunce's test to get the answers. Put some thought into it! I faith in you! Here we go:

    1. Have a waiter bring you her favorite dessert with the ring inside of it.
    --I should add that some put the ring in champagne or some other form of food. Don't do this guys. Not only is this played out, if she's starving she may not see the ring and then where will you be. Prolly in the emergency room. Plus taking a girl to a fancy restaurant almost gives it away.

    Now I did have a friend that wanted all of his girlfriend's friends to be present when he proposed to her. So he had a post birthday party for her at the house and his excuse was "Well since you didn't get to celebrate your actual birthday with your friends, I wanted to throw it for you." He had a friend of his bake a cake, cut a piece of it out and hollow out the piece in order to put the ring box inside (wrapped in a ziploc bag. smart.) and then iced the cake after replacing the slice. What was so nice about it was that even her friends thought it was a birthday party (or at least I did) and after him insisting that I at least stay for cake, I realized what was going on. So she blew out the candles and cut the cake and at first thought something was wrong with the cake. She pulled out the baggie and was about to ask my friend what was wrong with the cake when she saw him on one knee. Totally threw her for a loop.

    2. Call your local radio station and get them to pop the question for you over the air waves at a time that you know she/he will be listening. Then dedicate a song to her/him.
    --One word. Tacky.

    3. Writing "Will you marry me" of any kind, whether that be on the sand, snow, sky, or a note.
    --Seriously, are we still in middle school?

    4. Public Proposals.
    --This is a half no simply because you need to make sure she wants to get married to you. If you think I'm kidding, here's a Marriage Proposal Gone Wrong

    5. Valentine's Day Proposals
    --My personal opinion is that you should showcase your love every day of the year and not just on one day. Again if you've been dating for a bit, she'll start to suspect Valentine's might be a day you do propose. Its been done so many times so look for a different day when the hub of love isn't saturating the air.

    6. At Disney World
    --Yes it is a place where dreams come true and if she has been a Disney Princess from the start, then go for it. Somewhere I lost the desire to be proposed to there. I blame Family Matters when Stefan proposed to Laura Winslow.

    7. Tie ring to a kite string or fishing line
    --Disaster waiting to happen.

    8. Via email or on the web.
    --This says you have no cajones and are afraid of what she'll say to your face. Take the risk. You've already paid for the ring.

    9. Put the ring in a box of chocolates with the ring box dipped in chocolate.
    --Chocolate is most women's Kryptonite. We may just devour the ring box without notice.

    10. In front of the TV with a box of chinese food and fortune cookies.
    --See Bride Wars to understand how pitiful of a proposal this was.


    Ok so now that you have my top ten, what are some proposals that you like and do not like?

    Next week: We're Engaged!

Sunday, 18 January 2009

  • Shoulda Put a Ring on It!

    Ok so this blog is meant for me to jot down any experiences I have had or are having as a non-bride. I am going to try to keep that the focus from now on. I know I haven't talked about it in a good week or so, but given that I had a lot of everything happen unbeknownst, I thought I'd let you guys know that my life is not all veils and flowers.

    Anywho, I thought I would back track and make this my first REAL entry about weddings and engagements. Let us look first at the ring. As a disclaimer, my opinions are not entirely the views of every girl wanting to get married and they are most certainly not the views of the bridal sites and magazines abroad. I have very thrifty views about everything concerning a wedding and really this blog is just for throwing out ideas and other well...options.

    Rings
    My biggest pet peeve is when I go on a bridal site that says "Get him to get you the ring of your dreams" or "What a girl wants she usually gets" or someone in a forum actually asked "If I don't like the ring my fiance got me, is it alright for me to return it and get the one I want". VOMMIT!!! Ladies, I understand you don't want to wear a ring that is ugly, but usually the unsatisfied bride-to-be is usually pouting because of the size of the rock itself. In this case size does NOT matter in my opinion. Also, to me, going out with your man and picking the exact ring you want to sport (like Mariah Carey prolly did with Nick Cannon popped the question with a 17 ct pink diamond. She prolly paid for it too, because I'm sorry, Cannon cannot be making that many royalties from his life on All That and MTV). Anyway, it takes the surprise out of it and it kinda says you don't give your boy enough kudos in knowing who you and what you like. Marriage is not about the ring anyway, so be happy that he even wants to marry you.

    Now for the guys, if you're not sure where to look or how to begin once you've figured out that you do want to get married the best way to get an idea of what ring you want to give her is to start with her and then do a little research. If she loves curling up and watching old movies or period style movies, then look for antique rings such Edwardian rings, or Art Deco. Look at jewelry from that era and note the style of the ring. You don't necessarily have to get that ring, you could actually have one made for you (its not that much more expensive).

    If your girlfriend isn't a showy girl and she likes to keep things simple, then by all means, keep it simple. You don't have to use your IRA to purchase a mega huge stone (I don't understand why a girl needs that much ice on her finger anyway). If you have a Plain Jane here's something that's subtly lavish, but still not screaming out "LOOK AT ME".

    Earthy girls or the activists, who are slightly hippyish and enjoy nature or hate the human exploitation in gold and diamond mines, these are possibly the coolest alternatives. Wood Rings come in a variety of woods and on this particular website they use blown down, scraps, and bug destroyed trees as their material. So it might be safe to say that there were no live trees harmed in the making of this product. Also you can have crushed stones or shells or even sand inlayed in the ring itself instead of getting a diamond. This one I actually really like and am considering

    So those are just a few examps, guys. Be creative and make the ring mean something to you as much as it will mean something to her. And when you pop the question, please don't propose like Anne Hathaway's character in Bride Wars got proposed to. That had no thought in it, and to me the thought behind it is worth far more than the ring itself.

    Now I'm not going to talk about the 3 C's because, frankly you could get me a CZ and I'd be happy with it because heck! If I'm getting married to man I love, knowing that its Intentionally Flawless 5ct Canary Diamond is not that important to me. Its only important if you're going to get a real diamond, you want to make sure you're getting a good deal, but aside from that....

    Stay tuned for proposal ideas next week guys where I will give you 10 proposals to STAY AWAY FROM.

Sunday, 11 January 2009

  • Lost in Austen

    Just watched a wonderful adaption of the Jane Austen classic Pride and Prejudice called Lost in Austen. It's about a girl (Amanda Price) who's been a big fan of P&P her whole life and who finds the Austen characters starting to bleed into the fabric of her life. Elizabeth Bennett winds up in modern day London, while Amanda steps into the Bennett household and finds herself becoming one of the characters. When things in the story go awry, Amanda tries to fix everything so that follows the book to the letter, but she only botches up the story even more.

    I know it seems like P&P is being completely butchered, but trust me the twists are well worth it. I am a huge fan of P&P both the book and the movie (actually I'm an Austen fan period) and I have already watched this miniseries twice in the last few days. I think its because when I first read the book, I imagined myself in the story itself. I loved Mr. Darcy growing up, but I think I most identified myself with him. Having to come about love in a logical way. Repressing everything within me because I don't think there is anyway that such connections could work out. I do want my Darcy, but I wan the Darcy that persued Elizabeth despite all circumstances that tugged at his logic.

Monday, 05 January 2009

  • I watched the sky fall through my ceiling as I ate chicken little soup

    For New Years I was dead sick and missed worked which I so desperately needed at this point. I had a fever that I couldn't break for two days until my friend came over and made me sweat it out of me. On top of that, my closet had a leak in it so I couldn't sleep in my room or use my bathroom because there was a dehumidifier in the closet that was trying to dry out the leak. Anyway, once I was able to stand and walk to my room, this is what my bloodshot eyes came across:

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    I called maintenance and waited...

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    ...and waited...

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    until finally someone came to look at my ceiling which was STILL leaking. Its prolly going to be a week before I can get in my room in which case I am talking to management about discounting my rent for this month. Strangely all I could do was laugh. I've been hit with too many things to even be freaking out so much so whatever. I've decided to punch back though. With every bad thing that happens to me, I'm going to go and do one nice thing to someone I don't know that well. Yes a Happy New Year indeed.

Monday, 29 December 2008

  • Over the river and through the woods to Grandmother's...

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    The funeral went better than expected. The before was complete drama. I am glad though that I got born under the right son, because who knows where I would have been with my aunts and uncles. I left here on Wed evening and got to Newark after midnight where my family was waiting for me after getting off of their flight. It was sleeting outside and I was glad to finally get to my cousin Gin-gin's house (short for Virginia not booze) and get some sleep. Christmas was without presents which is fine by me, but I did get to have a snowball fight/ dance off with my dad outside. He is ridiculous.
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    Not much was done because we had no car and none of my dad's punk siblings came and picked us up for Christmas dinner, knowing we had no ride. Thursday my aunt Dawn took dad and I to go rent a car and then we went to see Miss Attitude in the hospital (my grandmother) who had decided that she was not going to the funeral and conveniently got herself admitted into the hospital.

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    Saturday was the funeral, which was slightly strange because I had to take pictures of it for grandma, but I drew a line at taking a picture of grandpa in the casket; afterwards we visited grandma again. The hospital she was in was in Bloomfield I think and the scenery was much nicer. Sunday I flew back home after being delayed for 3 hours at the airport. Mum and dad haven't got home yet because they missed their connector due to delays. I come home to find that there is mildew in my closet due to my upstair neighbors having a leaking problem for at least two days. I also came home to find that yet another friend has gotten engaged:

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    Aren't they beautiful? She looks just like her mum too. Again I get overly excited because of happiness for them and I need to stop doing that because I always run out of steam quickly.

    Anyway I miss the snow already. Even if most of it was dirty. I hope everyone had an amazing Christmas and has an even better New Year!!

Friday, 19 December 2008

  • On a Sad Note...

    My grandpa died today. He was the last child in his family to stay alive only having survived his sister by a few months. I am more sad at the fact that despite many efforts to get to know him, and him me, he never really made a connection. For a while I did not want to talk to him because of selfish things he did to the family. I am not mad anymore, but I am just disappointed because I won't ever know anything about him. I am sad because its so close to home. I had just hoped that he would live on long enough to realize his mistakes and attempt to be a good father and husband. If he could have only been immortal until then.

    Seriously, lets not forget what this season is about and what life should about. Live, Learn, Love, and be real with each other. This life maybe the only chance you have to do that with each other.

    Merry Christmas.

Monday, 15 December 2008

  • Happy Yet Sad

    My friend Tyler texted me last Tuesday and said "Kelly is now almost my wife" which meant that he had proposed to her and she said yes. Tyler and I go back almost three years and as for those three years he has been a gentlemen to every girl he came in contact with. Even though he was like two years younger than me, he always acted like an older brother. I ran into his ex-girlfriend two years ago as we were applying for a camp counseling position and she asked if I knew Tyler and I said "Yeah he's pretty great" to which she replied "I know, isn't he? You know when we were together he was always so thoughtful and I got so used to it that I began to rely on him, which wasn't good, and we both realized we were not right for each in the end, but man he's going to be great for someone!" Yeah that's the kinda guy my friend Tyler is. Treats women like they deserver that even his ex's speak highly of him. So of course I was elated when I found out he was finally getting married to the girl he had been talking about for the last year and a half. And the proposal was beautiful! I wish I could have been there with everyone else, witnessing it all!

    But when all the fuzzy feelings and pixie dust settled, loneliness gripped my entire being, and fear invaded this space in my mind I fight so desperately daily to keep reserved for hope and I thought, "Man, when is it my turn?" I haven't had a boyfriend in four years (he has been in five semi-long ones since then. ridiculous) nor have I gone on dates (I just find that awkward) in four years. I've been interested in a few guys since then, but nothing has become of it (most of you would prolly say its because I don't date), but its usually because I am not it for them, or after a while of observing them, I find that my match has not been met.

    After God created Adam, he says that man shouldn't live alone and he goes about preparing a mate for Adam. I am sure God was enough for Adam and that He completed him, but there was a physical longing for a companion. That is where I find myself. Spiritually and emotionally, I want God to be all that I need, there's just a longing (not a hole but a longing) that I have for companionship.

    I can't say that I am empty, because God keeps me filled, but what about that feeling? Am I suppose to ignore it and assume that it is wrong for me to feel this way? I know God has put it there, but when I look at my present situation I have no idea why He put it there in the first place.

    **Sigh**.

    I am really praying for a change in my life. Soon and in God's perfect timing.

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